What to say when you don't know what to say

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“I know how you feel.”  

The intent of this statement is to make a human connection and provide comfort.  

In reality, it doesn’t do either.   

Genuine motive; poor execution.  

Instead of trying to provide comfort, have the courage to join others in their discomfort.  

Even if you’ve faced a similar circumstance, you can’t understand how someone else feels because you’re not them.  

Rather than spouting off a tired cliché, offer the rare gift of a sincere question:  

“How are you feeling?” 

Then, let your ears do the work and give them space to talk. 

Ultimately, this produces the connection you seek and the healing they need.